Life is like that

When we all think about life,the common idea is to have a life with no worries,no problems,no unhappiness..

But is that what we really want?If you are always happy,won't you be bored?

We wish for something,we pray to god to grant it,we hope it happens and then finally we have the satisfaction of clearing the exams.Ha ha,Just kidding.

We then have the infinitely happy koment of getting what we want.But,if you are eterrnally happy,you will never know strife,you will never have to hope or wish and in such a case,will you know happiness?

Why,chances are you may never know that you are happy.You will be content and so bored.

Life has fluctuations between happiness,irritation and unhappiness and this is what makes life interesting,don't you think?

Isn't that what makes life unmonotonous?

Swami Vivekanada said:"The day you don't come across a problem,take it for granted that you are walking the wrong path"

By this I don't mean to say we should be gratedul for our troubles.I just mean life has it's ups and downs.There may be  some situations where we feel hopeless and at others where we think we can take on the whole world alone.That is life.
So,if some small sadness affects you,dont be depressed,instead face it bravely,considering life's fickle manner.You can be sure you will be very happy soon.

"Good experience comes from bad decisions".So don't worry about any mistakes,move on.

Life is an echo,all comes back,the

good,the bad,the false,the true.

So give the world the best you have

and the best will come back to you.

Right or Wrong-1

Don't be wrong.....

Everyone of us face situations in life where we tend to behave in a manner that causes us embarrassment and pain when looked back upon later.You might have inadvertently hurt someone though it was NEVER your intention.Yet,these are the situations where we learn that we should behave differently on such events in the future.

Being teens,we are still learning the tact and nuances of life.Hence,life presents us with numerous new situations each day,trying us in a different way each time.

We may act well in most of the times yet everyone makes a few mistakes.
Those who make the fewest such mistakes don't live their life at all.

Well,now that we have established that such situations do occur,and it's not wrong to be wrong sometimes,what of the consequences?

Yes,they can be disastrous.We can lose a friend,a sibling over these so called mistakes.
What to do then?
Here is where our conscience comes in.It helps us decide whether the wrong is really on our side.It tells you to apologize.
Then,if that person really matters to you,you apologize. As I said before,there is nothing wrong in accepting that you were wrong.Everyone makes mistakes.

Yet again,there may be situations where you are not wrong,or are not directly responsible.If it is really true that you have not made the mistake that hurt others you shall not apologize,maybe nor will they.This is the place where ego reigns and marrs beautiful relationships forever.It cannot be generally said,without knowing the specific case,what to do at these times.

If the person really matters to us,we should be ready to make peace.But what of them?They must be atleast willing to accept that you haven't comitted the crime.When the other person jumps to conclusions and begins acting all superior and high, BAAM..........,although you would have let it go,you now wish to hit their head with a baseball bat.

You don't want to honor and grow your ego,but neither do you want to insult it.If you indulge the stupid behaviour if this hypothetical person and initiate the truce,won't your self-respect be wounded?
We should give up the ego,but for no reason our self-respect.

I have crossed and am yet crossing exactly this.Trying to find a common ground that 
will not hurt my self-respect nor hers.God,help me...

Will be contiued.......

A third wheel in friends??Really??

Have you ever felt like the third wheel in your group of friends?

To those who haven't,this may sound like an odd question.A third wheel within your friends?? Come on! But guys,to you I say,yes it does happen,and way too often among friends who have been sooo close.

So here's the deal...

We have these groups of friends around us.You love them all so much.It started out like all of us were one and the same.The levels of friendship were awesome (they still are sometimes.)

But the villian,the vile time, it moves on...makes things change...

So now one such group of yours,say, having 3 people  including yourself, most days you're one of them,laughing,sharing,having fun.

But some days,things change.

The other two somehow get closer,share things only between themselves,like they are the besties , and those times, yeah,you feel like a third wheel.

It's not that they omit you,but you get the feeling that they would rather be alone for a while.

During these times,you feel,one is the best friend of another and you..well,you're  just their friend...

God forbid,but like if both of you are about to die,the third girl will not save you but the other..... and it will be an easy decision...

I'm not a person unaware of the great feeling of having your own personal bestie. There was a time when it was me n my gal life or death,rain or sun,night or day,but the villian took that away.......we've drifted apart, though not  far,thank God!

Now its always groups and hence the problem.

Sometimes groups with people who you think of as your best friends, but who don't even think of you as their bestie,or as one of their besties nor as their confidante.......

At these times,you wonder,what caused that change..

Was it yourself ?
Is it that you are older now,and such kinds of friendships are just not possible anymore? Is it that your friends treat with love and it's your own freak of a mind that creates such depressing notions?

You know being a third wheel is depressing..,you have no choice but to move away from these people,for fear of hurting yourself,for fear of damaging your self-worth,for fear of....well, being there when they don't want you there....

Gradually,these people drift away,"moving on with life",while you are stuck thinking of the lovely memories and fun you shared together.I hope to God that dosen't happen,that we remain always together and the best of friends!!

I'm sure we will have loads of fun together forever..

#3 A Love Poem

Knife 

She walked into my sight,

Her face filled with light,

Twas Love at first sight!

I went to her and said 'Hey!'

We talked a lot,we had a lot to say

She kinda made my day..

We had a lot of highs,

Faced many serious blows,

But we stayed together,

For,we were made for one another.

God had given me a lift,

In her,He had given me a lift,

She was such a boon

But He took her away so soon.

She left me then,

Never saying when,

We'll ever meet again.

Without her,my life 

Is not a strife...

I Just need a knife.....

#2 Love life-Happy or Frustrated

Its a funny situation to be a single girl in a group  where  all your friends are committed or at least trying...you get to observe the changes in them....

Thinking back today to the countless times you compared a friend with another and had the same done to you,you realize how innocent you were those days and how much fun it is to be carefree ,

to not think about love,to have friends who are carefree and take everything as a funny joke

Today as i see my "committed" friend try and fight so many battles against her family,schedule,her bae and sometimes even herself,I wonder if this is how love should be??

As a person who has never experienced the feeling,I feel terrified about ever having to experience it.

This friend of mine is so happy in the morning,she smiles so radiantly that she makes me smile too.

A few hours later,I'm in the same mood she left me in the morning,I approach her trying to tell her some exciting news ,but she is curt and rude and says she is upset.All my excitement rushes out of me and I'm really angry at her for cutting me off so rudely,for making me upset too...

Soon i move on with my day forgetting her.When I meet her later I remember her reaction and try to avoid her.But she sticks with me asking for advice and ideas rejecting all I say.

Now I am frustrated and I ask her to give up on him and move on..

She loves him...

I sit and think,if its such a roller-coaster of emotions to be the friend of a person in love, what is it to be that person??.She was the most amazing,carefree girl I knew,never worrying too much about anything,and to see this kind of change in heart is heartbreaking..

Is it the wrong kind of love or the wrong guy or she herself who is making this supposedly heavenly journey miserable,I dont know,But it does seriously inflict me with a fear of love..

Her kind-of constant rudeness these days has lost her many a friend,and good ones too.

Those who are in a relationship ask your true friends whether you have changed and whether for better or worse(coz you have surely changed ;) )

Love is a happy emotion or feeling where whenever you think of the person,you forget your worries and smile.It does not ask you to change ,nor should the person you love.

Do not make love an awfully bad boss that makes you constantly irritable.Let it stay magical and mysterious to those who are still waiting for love...



Stay happy and in love,with lots of friends by you...

Yours,

Priya